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Your life is happening right before your eyes — whether you’re participating or not.

Your kids are growing up, your parents are aging, your birthday candles are accumulating. 

Are you actively seeking what you desire? Do you know your purpose? Do you even have an opinion about the direction in which life is moving?  Maybe you're just letting the chips fall where they may, and then sweeping them up before bed.

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I’m really asking you. Maybe this is not something you’ve spent time considering. Let’s explore this together.

What do you want? What kind of mother do you want to be? What kind of mother are you currently? Is there a gap?

Are you willing to take responsibility for the way things are in your life?

Notice how this question makes you feel. Are you curious or are you brushing it off?

If you’ve continued reading, why do you think that is? What are you hungry for? I’m not talking about food, I’m talking about your heart and soul. What are you hungry for?

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Is that something you occasionally allow yourself to ponder here and there? Or are you grinding so hard with your nose down that you barely take time to look up?

Did you know there is room to be wife, mommy, and woman? Does the individual side of you get a chance to breathe? I’d like to cordially invite you to your life. Pull up your chair and grab your seat at the table.

Ilana Charette is in her early 30s, a wife and mom of 2 under 4. She is a life and weight loss coach and a stay at home mom. She is passionate about teaching women how to trust themselves and their bodies again. Find out more about her and follow along as she loses her weight for the final time here: and on her Instagram. 

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