I am reflecting on the past 32 and a half years of my life and I have to acknowledge something truly uncomfortable about it all.

I am reflecting on the past 32 and a half years of my life and I have to acknowledge something truly uncomfortable about it all. 

I take full responsibility for every outcome and result I have experienced. 

My weight gain. Getting dumped. Growing apart from close friends. Being broke. Living paycheck to paycheck. I can clearly see now that it was directly because of the way I was thinking and believing about my life and existence as a whole. 

This is painful to admit. But it is even more painful to acknowledge. Because I am not worried about what other people think about this discrepancy in my life. I am sitting here feeling betrayed by my own self.  Feeling shame of my own doing.

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I know that I can only do what I can do when I know I can do it. (Read that again, haha.) But in all seriousness I have started to take so much better care of me and start to take responsibility for the way I want things to be. And I realized that I can’t do that without owning everything that I did not want, too. Because that is all on me also. 

So, this is what coaching does. My own self-coaching practice has led me here. Where I have raised my own self-awareness high enough to be able to reflect on my past patterns. See them. Feel them. Own them. And now I get to change them. 

Because my next level is here. I already know it. And see it. This acknowledgement shoots me through a quantum leap which means I am growing through this process. And sharing it with you in this way is also how I continue to evolve. I have decided to be always growing, always evolving.

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I no longer live in a way where I get to avoid, not see, or bury my head in the sand. I face everything and decide what I want to make it mean. Because I know this is what strength looks like, feels like. I’m all in for all of this. Because now that I am actively taking responsibility of myself and for my life — I’m unstoppable. Weight loss? Financial independence? Thriving marriage? Amazing friendships? Come to me. Because I’m ready. And I am never giving up. 

Ilana Charette is the life and weight loss coach for women who have had lap band weight loss surgery and are struggling with regain since pregnancy/kids. She teaches women how to trust themselves and their bodies again with self-care, self-integrity, and self-love. She offers one on one coaching where clients become aware of how their brains are working perfectly and are taught how to step into mastery of the brain to create an extraordinary life of abundance and unconditional love -- and permanent weight loss. Find out more about her and follow along as she loses her weight for the final time here: WhatTheWeightLoss.com and on her Instagram. 

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