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What if nothing can be done wrong?

Perfectionism and procrastination -- I don’t know how. And I don’t know how to do it right.

I don't know how. And I don't know how to do it right. 

These are hardwired into your brain. They're there to keep you safe, to keep you exactly the way you are, to keep you rinsing and repeating your past. 

They don't allow you to move beyond them. Your brain cycles, telling you those things over and over again, without the filter or practice of questioning your brain.

Nothing has gone wrong. 

So let’s talk about adding a filter. 

When you are in the practice of always believing your brain, it seems impossible that there could be any other way. But let’s demonstrate why it’s important to start questioning in order to achieve anything. 

Having your own business or side-hustle is probably the most obvious way these setbacks come up. You tell yourself: I can’t sell this. I love it but no one wants to hear from me. I would never be able to do this without being annoying.

And so on.

You disqualify yourself before giving yourself a chance. Or at least your brain does. Because it doesn’t want you to put yourself out there. To leave your comfort zone. Because then unknown factors come into play and your brain is wired to believe that your life would then be in danger. Literally. That is why it always feels like life or death in our body. It feels way bigger than it actually is. 

But what if we approached our own business like a business--neutrally--and evaluate from a place of curiosity? Strategies are either working or they are not. They have nothing to do with us, as individuals. They're factual.

So deliberately deciding what you want to believe is necessary to create distance from the default that your brain says: You should just sit on the couch. Might as well start the laundry now.

Nothing has gone wrong.

Mastering the your human brain creates space for you to do whatever it is that you want. No one has an advantage over anyone else. We all have human brains. 

Look around. Everything you see that's not naturally there came from a human brain. Each of ours are wired differently. Practicing new habits can lead to bigger and greater results. If you chose to live intentionally. If you chose to stop believing your brain.

The choice is yours.

Ilana Charette is the lap band weight loss surgery coach. She is a coach for women who struggle with regain after bariatric surgery.  She teaches women how to trust themselves and their bodies again. 

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