I used to be so critical of myself. Nothing was ever good enough.
No gift was ever thoughtful enough. I was never prepared enough. The list went
on and on.
I know I am not alone in this.
I had shamed myself into basically being afraid to even
breathe wrong. I would immediately beat myself up about every single thing I
was doing, or not doing.
As a direct result, I was afraid. I was afraid to do
anything to turn the spotlight onto me – if even for a brief nanosecond. Like
sneeze in public. I was truly afraid to be myself.
I want to let you in on life’s deepest secret.
You don’t have to treat yourself that way. You are worthy.
You are worthy of love, light, forgiveness -- anything you want -- right this
very second.
Not a single thing about you needs to change in order for
this to be true.
But, the secret is, once you know this, and I mean believe
this, you will change automatically.
If your worth is immeasurable and limitless, and it is, then
you don’t have to beat yourself up.
You can just be.
You can exist exactly as you’d like.
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Ok, so how?
Awareness. Recognize your brain is used to thinking a certain
way about you. It has formed a habit. Awareness will grow around your thoughts.
See it for what it is.
Ask yourself the questions. Is there truth in your reaction?
If your best friend or daughter or niece did the exact same thing, how would
you respond? THAT is your truth.
You now speak to yourself the way you would to your best
friend/daughter/niece.
See what doors open as a result.
It will take time to rewrite your habit. To change the way
you think about you.
Nothing about you needs to change for you to decide to make
this change.
You get to be your best friend. You get to offer yourself
compassion. You get to make peace within yourself.
This is the way you grow. If you want to.
Ilana Charette is in her early 30s and a wife and mother of 2 littles. She is a stay at home mom and simultaneously building a business from home. She is a life and weight loss coach. She is passionate about teaching women how to trust themselves and their bodies again. Find out more about her and follow along as she loses her weight for the final time here: WhatTheWeightLoss.com and on her Instagram.
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