Learn how to think about what you want slightly differently...

Once you realize there is something you want, that is just good information to have. We often times get so caught up in the “not-having” that we actually repel anything close to the original desire from showing up in our experience.

 

I want to offer that the desire itself is the signal that there is possibility in it being yours, today. Simply because it has arrived into your awareness.

 

The way to achieve or receive is through the feeling of already having. Which is why when we get hit with the “not having,” it never happens. The true catch is that you must already feel like you have it in your experience in order to actually realize it on the physical plane.

 

I know this sounds not true. I know that if you have practiced being “realistic” in your life, then your brain would not automatically be able to accept this as truth. And that is the difference in why someone’s experience in the physical is “harder” or “easier” than yours.

 

Harder and easier are both mental constructs, as well. Neither is actually true. It is just a decision that it is or is not one way and the belief (and evidence gathered by your brain) to support it.

 

How I know there is all different perspectives in the world, is because there really are… So many different humans believing what is real for them. Means that really ANYTHING is possible because of that simple truth. Because everyone really is right because that is what they are choosing, and experiencing.

 

The question then becomes – what serves you? Does it serve you to continue believing everything you have believed thus far? The possibility of living in a world not believing what you always have seems scary. And that is the science behind why it is so hard to change. 

Once you are 25+ your brain has pretty much finished being wired, and is fully developed. Now it gets to rinse and repeat. The easy part takes over. Auto-pilot. Which means that you would continue living your life (more or less) exactly the same way you have all along. Just like how when you are driving a car on the highway, and you are not even really there for 3 exits. You are not even really there for your life.

 

It is in the decision to evaluate what it is you actually do believe, where you get to decide what serves you or no longer serves you. For example, if it is true that you could experience ahead of time the feelings of already having what it is you want, is there a downside to doing that and trying it out?

 

Not really, no. But how willing your brain is to try something new – or not, really comes down to the way your brain has been wired. And knowing all this is the foundation to know that your brain can be rewired to have everything you have ever wanted. Health. Success. Wealth. Relationships. You name it. And if you are willing to do this and feel the way it is to feel ahead of time, see what other possibilities come up that you never did expect. Because The Universe really does want us to have everything we want. And if you can’t quite get there conceptually, what is the downside to believing that could be true?

 

To your transformation externally – and most importantly, internally…

Ilana.

Ilana Charette is the lap band weight loss surgery coach. She coaches moms who struggle with regain after bariatric surgery.  She teaches women how to trust themselves -- and their bodies again. Find out more about her and follow along as she loses 160 lbs in public: WhatTheWeightLoss.com and on Instagram. 

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