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How to teach children lovingkindness meditation?



We must love ourselves before we can love others and offer kindness to the world around us.

Teach children lovingkindness meditation

We must love ourselves before we can love others and offer kindness to the world around us.

What better way to expand our love for ourselves and others than by learning how to practice lovingkindness meditation and sharing the experience with our children?

Understanding Lovingkindness Meditation

Also called Metta or compassion meditation, lovingkindness meditation is one of the most commonly practiced types of meditations out there. Quite simply, it is the practice of directing positive thoughts and well wishes to ourselves and others. It may seem odd at first, but you can easily learn it. 

As you sit comfortably with your eyes closed, imagine what you wish for your life. The four phrases that you either say out loud or think silently during the practice are typically: 

May I/you be safe.

May I/you be healthy and strong.

May I/you be happy.

May I/you be peaceful and at ease. 

You repeat these wishes, directing them first to yourself and then towards different people in your life as follows:

  1. Start by directing the phrases to yourself.

  2. Next, direct the metta towards someone you feel thankful for or who has helped you.

  3. Now visualize someone you feel neutral about—people you neither like nor dislike. Direct the thoughts to that person.

  4. Next, direct the thoughts to someone you don’t like or who you are having a difficult time dealing with.

  5. Finally, direct the metta towards everyone universally: May all beings everywhere be happy. 

Benefits of Lovingkindness Meditation 

Practicing lovingkindness meditation ultimately changes how we relate to ourselves and others. We start to feel less isolated and more connected.

According to meditation expert and author Sharon Salzberg, “When we practice it, we acknowledge that every one of us shares the same wish to be happy, and the same vulnerability to change and suffering. We can shift the way we view ourselves and others—with kindness instead of criticism.” 

Scientific research shows how lovingkindness meditation leads to positive changes in the brain.

Performing acts of kindness gives us a natural high. Sitting and practicing this meditation can cause the same changes in our bodies and minds. Lovingkindness meditation brings amazing benefits to our lives such as:

  • Reducing stress and anxiety
  • Lifting our mood and producing more positive emotions
  • Increasing feelings of hope
  • Decreasing physical and emotional pain
  • Reducing anger
  • Increasing positive social emotions toward new people as well as loved ones
  • Activating empathy
  • Improving social connection
  • Increasing self-love and how we feel about ourselves

Share This Practice With Your Children

After learning about all the benefits, don’t you just want to share some lovingkindness with your kids right now?

This type of meditation allows children to get in touch with their feelings. It helps guide them in sending positive and healing energy to people and children in other places—even those who have hurt them like a bully at school. Children can develop a sense of power as they gain self-love and compassion for others. The practice is special since it goes beyond cultural barriers, economic situations, educational backgrounds, and geographic locations. It is also very simple to do and does not require any equipment. 

We can teach our children about lovingkindness by helping them send the four wishes to different people in their lives.

Ask your children to come up with their own loving thoughts. They can also send their wishes to favorite objects in their lives like a pet, television or book character, toy, or stuffed animal. You can also go through the wishes by saying them to each other.

One mother explained how she incorporated lovingkindness meditation into their family’s bedtime routine. She says May You Be Happy and then the children repeat it back to her. They go through this process a few times, repeating the different phrases. 

This is a perfect time to teach your children how to spread love through lovingkindness meditation. It is also a tool that they can take with them throughout the year, helping them to feel happier, calmer, healthier, and better connected to others. 

Enjoy these children’s books about lovingkindness meditation

  • Audrey's Journey: Loving Kindness by Kerry Alison Wekelo
  • Loving-Kindness Meditation by Sami Jo
  • Meditation for Kids: The Loving Kindness by Olivia Brown
  • Moose's Mindful Mantra by Mernette Martin
  • Zen Learns Lovingkindness (A Boy Named Zen) by Jeremiah Lee Olson

Sandi Schwartz is a freelance writer/blogger and mother of two. She has written extensively about parenting, wellness, and environmental issues. You can find her at www.happysciencemom.com



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