Host your own sex toy party!

Want to add some spice to your love life? Why not host sex toy party with your friends? Athena’s, Tasteful Treasures, Pure Romance and Passion Parties are just a few of the online companies that have local reps who will host parties for you and your friends in your comfort and privacy of your own home.

Amy Sullivan is a Saugerties social worker, mother of two youngsters, and a former rep for the now-closed Brown Bag Parties.

“As a social worker, women would often ask advice about their marriage and how to ‘spice things up,’” says Sullivan. “As we all know, being moms with responsibilities we get tired and sometimes withdrawn. Sex isn't always a priority. I would say: Make it one.”

When Sullivan was hosting parties, she says they were educational and liberating, and found the host’s friends were usually really receptive to the idea.

“They want to come because they're usually too terrified to host themselves!”

Why add toys to the mix?

“I'm a firm believer that sometimes you just need a little help,” says Sullivan. “Lingerie can make you feel sexy again, toys can get your juju moving! That's why I love using toys — they're spontaneous.”

Sullivan adds that you can use something that is very private (think remote control toys where your partner has the remote) while on a date, or use them in the bedroom.

“Some folks are shy or even afraid of toys because of what you might have seen or heard when younger, but there are literally thousands of choices! Most home party companies have a few in their repertoire that are good for beginners. Most of all — get rid of the ‘afraid’ feeling because it will enhance and make you feel like a star!”

Spicing up your sex life isn’t just about the act of sex, says Sullivan. “It's about making your relationship and intimacy a priority. Every relationship will have its ups and downs, but it's remembering to kiss everyday, hold hands, have a date, snuggle, and the like that keep things fresh.”

One of the things that really works for new moms is finding ways to sneak in sexy times, says Sullivan.

“Think lunchtime, taking a half hour off work early, or the like. Keep it spontaneous!”

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