Want to
add some spice to your love life? Why not host sex toy party with your friends?
Athena’s, Tasteful Treasures, Pure Romance and Passion Parties are just
a few of the online companies that have local reps who will host parties
for you and your friends in your comfort and privacy of your own home.
Amy
Sullivan is a Saugerties social worker, mother of two youngsters, and a former
rep for the now-closed Brown Bag Parties.
“As a
social worker, women would often ask advice about their marriage and how to
‘spice things up,’” says Sullivan. “As we all know, being moms with
responsibilities we get tired and sometimes withdrawn. Sex isn't always a
priority. I would say: Make it one.”
When
Sullivan was hosting parties, she says they were educational and liberating,
and found the host’s friends were usually really receptive to the idea.
“They
want to come because they're usually too terrified to host themselves!”
Why add
toys to the mix?
“I'm a
firm believer that sometimes you just need a little help,” says Sullivan.
“Lingerie can make you feel sexy again, toys can get your juju moving! That's
why I love using toys — they're spontaneous.”
Sullivan
adds that you can use something that is very private (think remote control toys
where your partner has the remote) while on a date, or use them in the bedroom.
“Some
folks are shy or even afraid of toys because of what you might have seen or
heard when younger, but there are literally thousands of choices! Most home
party companies have a few in their repertoire that are good for beginners.
Most of all — get rid of the ‘afraid’ feeling because it will enhance and make
you feel like a star!”
Spicing
up your sex life isn’t just about the act of sex, says Sullivan. “It's about
making your relationship and intimacy a priority. Every relationship will have
its ups and downs, but it's remembering to kiss everyday, hold hands, have a
date, snuggle, and the like that keep things fresh.”
One of
the things that really works for new moms is finding ways to sneak in sexy
times, says Sullivan.
“Think
lunchtime, taking a half hour off work early, or the like. Keep it
spontaneous!”
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