In Paul Schwartz’s column in Hudson Valley Parent magazine, he discussed the 10 qualities of “great kids.” Here’s one quality that kids need to develop in order to lead a happy, healthy life while being able to face the challenges of the 21st century.

Engagement (the ability to relate to others): The ability to socialize well with peers in childhood and enjoy friendships is crucial to self esteem and becomes a critical component of identity in adolescents. Broadening those relationships for your child, encouraging your child to broaden her relationships on her own, and helping her invest emotional intimacy in relationships even when the going gets rough are crucial building blocks of a great kid and an adaptive adult. Our ability to love, trust and connect deeply and intimately allows us to live full, meaningful lives.

Paul Schwartz, Ph.D., is a professor of psychology and education at Mount Saint Mary College. He is available for speaking engagements to parent groups.