In Paul Schwartz’s column in Hudson Valley Parent magazine, he discussed the 10 qualities of “great kids.” Here’s one quality that kids need to develop in order to lead a happy, healthy life while being able to face the challenges of the 21st century.

Communication (possessing the transforming power of language): Great communicators are able to understand others and be understood. They have the ability to communicate their wishes and feelings clearly and effectively, not only through speech but also non-verbally through gestures. The best way to help train your child to be a great communicator is to engage him in frequent conversations. The key is to talk to and especially listen to your children. Avoid conversation or questions that will end in “yes” or “no” responses.

Paul Schwartz, Ph.D., is a professor of psychology and education at Mount Saint Mary College. He is available for speaking engagements to parent groups.