Declutter Your Life To Reduce Stress

Make declutter a family activity and watch the smiles emerge

Make declutter a family activity and watch the smiles emerge

How many times have you yelled at your kids to clean up the mess in their bedroom or playroom? Believe it or not, that clutter isn’t just stressing you out because you are annoyed—it is stressing out the entire family because the sheer existence of clutter is linked to stress and anxiety. In fact, according to a study by UCLA’s Center on Everyday Lives and Families (CELF), the amount of stress family members experience at home is directly proportional to the amount of stuff they and their family have accumulated. Why is this the case and what can we do about it? 

Why Clutter Causes Stress

It’s no surprise that constantly seeing piles of stuff build up in our home—whether it be papers, toys, loose pictures, laundry, gadgets, etc.—can take a toll on us, but the reasons are more complicated than you would think. Messy homes can leave us feeling anxious, helpless, overwhelmed, embarrassed, ashamed, and/or guilty. Many of us may not even recognize that the clutter is the source of our stress, especially if it’s been part of our environment for so long. 

Clutter causes us to feel stressed because it:

  • Overstimulates our mind and overloads our senses

  • Distracts us

  • Constantly signals our brain that we have more work to do

  • Makes it very hard for us to relax both physically and mentally

  • Creates feelings of guilt and embarrassment when guests come over and see our disorganization. We worry that we will be judged and even ridiculed for the way we live

  • Frustrates us when we have trouble finding what we need. According to the American Demographics Society, Americans waste 9 million hours each day searching for misplaced items, and 23 percent of adults say they pay bills late because they lose them

  • Stunts creativity and productivity because our brain is overwhelmed by the intruding stimuli in the space where we think and work. A study by the Princeton University Neuroscience Institute discovered that individuals surrounded by physical clutter in a disorganized environment are less productive and more distracted.

Feeling anxious about clutter can cause additional stress-related issues in our lives such as sleep problems and relationship issues due to arguments with family members about the mess. And if your clutter causes you to lose items and make you late, this can impact school drop-off times, job performance, and finances if your bills are not paid on time. 

Many American families are overwhelmed by clutter, according to research by UCLA’s Center on Everyday Lives and Families (CELF). During the study, researched visited the homes of 32 families across the country and found that living in a cluttered space can create a subtle, constant sense of stress that impacts mood and self-esteem. Additionally, they discovered that women in the household were more stressed out by the clutter than the rest of the family members. The mothers evaluated had elevated levels of stress hormones while sorting out their possessions to try and get them more organized. 

Why Reducing Clutter Helps

All of that stuff taking over your closets, drawers, and counter space starts to send out negative energy throughout your home. Those piles exude chaos, disorder, and confusion, which can stress us out. When we clean up the mess, our overall stress level starts to dissipate and we feel more positive energy to help us live a happier, healthier life. 

According to Joyce Marter, Licensed Clinical Professional Counselor and Founder of Urban Balance, “Our environment is a direct reflection of our internal mental health and vice versa.

So, if our home is disorganized our minds may feel scattered as well. Home organization promotes serenity and wellness in your life.” She suggests purging unnecessary items from our home so that we can live more efficiently. When we have less clutter to manage, we save time and are less stressed overall. 

Professional organizer Angela Betacourt has seen evidence firsthand of mental health benefits as a result of clients decluttering their home. They typically experience less stress and anxiety, more inner peace, a boost in self-confidence, and improved health habits like more restful sleep. In essence, a clutter-free environment allows us to think more clearly, accomplish our tasks more effectively, and rest more calmly. 

Finally, decluttering tends to help us feel more confident about having guests in our home. We no longer worry about being judged for our mess, relieving us of anxiety, embarrassment, and relationship conflicts.

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How To Get Organized

It may feel overwhelming and intimating to start tackling your clutter. The more that you have, the more challenging it can be. You may feel stressed even just thinking about getting rid of your belongings because it can muster up a sense of loss or bring up old memories. It’s important to get over that emotional hurdle so that you can start sorting and throwing out items that no longer serve your family. Just keep telling yourself that the process will ultimately lead to less stress! 

Your goal is to simplify your environment by clearing out items that you no longer need or that no longer bring you joy and to clean up the areas where things tend to get messy and disorganized. There are endless websites, articles, books, professional organizers, and stores that offer amazing tips to help you declutter your space. Find what is most effective for your family but be careful not to get too overwhelmed by all the options. 

Here are some organizing tips and tricks to get you started: 

Make it a family activity. There is no reason that you should get stuck tackling all the clutter in your home. Recruit the whole family and make it fun. Put on some music and order some pizza. Consider starting a contest to see who can organize their room the best or collect the most items for charity. Your kids will gain so much from this experience, such as organizational skills and feeling a sense of accomplishment. 

Set a schedule. By adding decluttering to your calendar, you will prevent it from piling up. Create a routine like the first Sunday of every month or before certain holidays. The end of summer before school starts and during spring break are perfect times to purge. 

Stop the junk at the door. When you come home from a birthday party or other event with a handful of giveaways, be sure to get rid of what you don’t want or need right away. This is also a great way to handle mail. Recycle unwanted mail before it ends up on your desk or countertop.

Return everything to its place. Save yourself clean up time by putting things back where you found them as soon as you are done using them. 

Invest in organizational products. Keep it simple: file folders for important papers, a To Do basket for items that need to be tackled right away, baskets or containers to store loose photographs and kids’ artwork, storage bins for out-of-season clothing, etc. 

Finally, follow this popular sorting method that most experts suggest:

1. Keep. These are items that you continue to need and use, and that bring joy to your life.

2. Sell. These are items that you want to try and sell online through Craigslist or eBay or at a yard sale.

3. Donate. Your trash could be someone else’s treasure. Give these items to individuals who could use them or donate them to a local charity.

4. Trash. These are unwanted or unused items that are too damaged to be donated or sold immediately. Please recycle if possible.

5. Store. If you really can’t decide what to do, box it up and put a date on it. Look at it again in six months. Store in an attic, extra closet, garage, or offsite storage facility to keep it out of the way.

Sandi Schwartz is a freelance writer/blogger and mother of two. She has written extensively about parenting, wellness, and environmental issues. You can find her at

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