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Dear Mom Who Never Gets In the Photos ...

please, please, please ... get in there!

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Dear Mom, 

You pull out your phone everyday to take a picture of your kids. But the question is ... when was the last time you got in the picture?

I know that sometimes as women we don't feel 100% great about ourselves. And we think … when I lose that next 10 pounds, I'll get in the pictures. Or, when I grow out this haircut, I'll get in the pictures. And then somehow, the years go by. YEARS go by and few pictures are taken of you and your kids -- or of the whole family together. 

After photographing people for the past 10 years, I can tell you that I see most women's insecurities the second I pull out my camera. I can see it in the way they turn to the side. Or try and pull in their belly. Or just in the bullets of sweat that start to form the moment the camera is pointed in their direction.

I have clients who hire me year after year to photograph their beautiful children … but never get into the photos with them. 

And that’s ok. It’s ok that sometimes it’s just the kids. After all, they are pretty darn cute! 

There’s a running joke that the person who hates having her picture taken most of all is the one most likely to become a photographer. And it just might be true ... because truth be told, I hate it. I’m in desperate need of new professional head shots for my site ... but I shy away from it. (Actual truth: I avoid all cameras pointed in my direction like the plague.) So when I say that I get it --  the stress and anxiety you may feel about finding yourself in front of a camera  -- I really do meant that I get it. 

I also get just how much social media today can make us feel like we’re just not measuring up. 

But I also know something that is SO much more important than your fears and insecurities. I know that in 20 years, the photos your kids will display in their own homes as cherished possessions won't be the ones of just them. It will be the ones of YOU and them. Those are the pictures that I have all over my home. They mean the world to me. And interestingly enough, when I look at those photos from my childhood, I never notice the size of my Grandmother’s waistline or my Mom’s lack of thigh gap ... I just see memories of the people I love.

Your kids love you just the way you are ... right now. So, please, please, please ... push those fears aside and get in the photos with your little ones. And when you book with a photographer, fight the urge to book a session just for your adorable kids. Book a session for YOU and your beautiful family.




Kate Callahan is an on-location photographer who LOVES to capture authentic memories for families. She’s available for weddings, senior photos, child photo sessions, and family photography. Kate works with clients throughout the Hudson Valley, NYC,  Delaware (and the tri-state area), and beyond. 

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