Although
it is more common in women, postpartum depression isn’t just for moms. According
to both Colin Bowman at Direct Advice for Dads, and Psycom.net one in ten fathers will
experience postpartum depression. Thankfully, it’s treatable. Bowman’s story is
one of success. In a piece clearly designed to connect with men unaccustomed to
dealing with mental health issues, he breaks his process down into five stages:
acknowledgement, seeing a doctor, talking to your nearest/dearest, seeing a
counselor, and exercise.
Bowman
knew something was off when he noticed he was letting himself go physically, eating
indiscriminately, and running afoul of friends. He writes: “For me it was a
combination of factors that made me seek help eventually. I was hardly taking
care of myself, was putting on weight, experiencing mood swings, falling out
with friends, arguing, getting frustrated with my kid when it wasn’t even her
fault, even some cases neglecting my daughter’s and wife’s needs. Dad of the
year material I was not.”
He
also notes a “constant fog” that made him miss milestones during his daughter’s
first year. He even questioned if his daughter would be better off without him
in her life. Red flags, all. But again, not unheard of.
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I
can say I’ve personally dealt with depression, both before and since my
now-adult son was born. Mine manifested as sleeplessness, hair-trigger anger,
and terrible anxiety that something awful was going to happen to my son. (Something
other than a depressed dad, which was actually happening to him.) It was not
pretty, but I was proactive, and found help, both professional and otherwise,
both self-administered, and at the hands of professionals.
I
know other fathers who’ve struggled and sought help in various ways. Bowman’s
advice is all spot-on, and I can speak from experience and say his tips are
well worth taking. Even though the various manifestations of depression can
make things seem quite dark, they need not be. The light is there to be found.
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