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Coming Clean

Finding truth and clarity

stay at home mom, weight loss

I have spent the last few months slowly coming to the realization that I am actually now living a life I had previously only thought about and hoped for. I am a weight loss coach. And moreover, I am a weight loss coach who is still losing the rest of her weight.  

This feels uncomfortable. And like I am probably doing this wrong. And that maybe I should stop and pick another hobby until I hit my goal weight, (I’m half way there.)

And because our thoughts create our feelings which drive our actions that tangibly produce our results, I have not been losing weight nor have I been showing up for my people.

You see, I am a coach for women who have had weight loss surgery and are struggling with regain since pregnancy/kids. Because this is my own story. I had my lap band placed in 2010 when I was 23. And I have gone through it all, including gaining it all back and then some, through my first pregnancy with my son.

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So, I am doing this for my people. Because I know what it is like. To feel that kind of shame. To suffer in that way. To feel worthless and insignificant. And terrible.

So, I know that this is important work that I am offering the world, and still during the last few months, I’ve let my scared brain interfere.

How many of us can relate in some way?

I know I’m not alone because I have a human brain, just like you. And man, is it good at keeping us stuck in indecision. At making us question ourselves and doubt what we are doing.

But I decided a few years ago that I was not going to listen to that part of my brain anymore. And I am coming out of the fear. And moving forward. And onwards. 

And I believe there may even be something you’d like to do, to ask of yourself, but have not yet done so because of a scared brain of yours.

These brains have one job and that is to keep us alive. And they do a good job at that for sure. But the way that society has evolved so quickly, and our brains truly have not, is the reason why our life is not actually at stake. Our wildest dreams are.

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So, here it is. I am coming clean that I am human. And I remind myself that I am losing my weight for the final time. In a public way. Because that is what I decided to do. And that I am doing this work for my people. To help end the suffering caused by our own brains. To let go of the shame and terrible feelings we put upon ourselves.

I am feeling the fear and showing up anyway. Are you?

Ilana Charette is a wife and mom of 2 under 4. She is a life and weight coach and a stay at home mom. She is passionate about teaching women how to trust themselves and their bodies again. Find out more about her and follow along as she loses her weight for the final time here: and on her Instagram. 

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